This won’t pay for my reception! Bride’s ‘rude and condescending’ message to guest complaining about $100 cash wedding gift
PUBLISHED: 09:35 EST, 4 July 2013
A woman who attended the wedding of her ‘not-close friend’ has told how she was ‘infuriated’ when the bride sent her a message saying her cash gift was an insufficient amount.
Tanya, who had just graduated from college with $40,000 in debt from student loans, explained to the Huffington Post that the $100 she gave with her boyfriend was ‘generous, considering my financial situation’.
Nevertheless, the newlywed expressed her ingratitude in a Facebook message that read: ‘I just want to know is there any reason or dissatisfaction of Mike’s and I wedding that both you and Phil gave 50$ each? [sic]’
The message continued: ‘In terms of the amount we got from you both was very unexpected as a result we were very much short on paying off the reception [sic].’
The bride went on to imply that she and her husband had over-budgeted their wedding, and were hoping to pay for it with the monetary gifts they received.
‘Just for the cocktail + reception alone the plate per person is 200$ (as per a normal wedding range with open bar is about) [sic],’ she wrote.
‘Mike and I both have already paid for everything else including decor, photography, attire etc and didn’t expect we had to cover that huge amount for reception as well.’
Tanya noted that it was ‘infuriating’ that the woman ‘had the nerve to make assumptions about my finances, and assume that I or my boyfriend had an extra $400 lying around.’
In fact, Tanya works just part-time and explained that ‘those $100 were hard-earned’, yet the bride ‘didn’t show an ounce of gratitude for what she did receive’.
Wedding planner Sharon Sacks told the Huffington Post that the bride’s accusatory Facebook is an example of ‘an inappropriate response to a wedding gift’.
She explained that the cost of a wedding and reception should always be the responsibility of the bride and groom and their families, never that of the guests.
‘I know you both live together and work, so I did not see any reason for that amount’
Tanya, too, felt this to be true: ‘If she had a minimum gift requirement, she should have specified it. . .or asked everyone for income statements before inviting them,’ she wrote.
This isn’t the only recent instance where a bride has been called out for her rude response to a wedding gift.
Last month, a woman and her boyfriend decided to create a food hamper for their friends’ same-sex marriage.
However, the newlyweds were less than impressed with the gesture, and sent a text message to the couple the next day to ask if they had the receipt so they could get the money back instead.
A war of words via Facebook and text message erupted, wherein the bride wrote: ‘You ate steak, chicken, booze, and a beautiful venue . . . If anything you should be embarrassed for being so cheap and embarrassing.’
In response, the guest wrote: ‘You should never host a party that you cannot afford, or expect your guests to pay for it.’
BRIDE‘S ‘RUDE AND CONDESCENDING’ MESSAGE
Hi Tanya, how are you? I just want to know is there any reason or dissatisfaction of Mike’s and I wedding that both you and Phil gave 50$ each?
In terms of the amount we got from you both was very unexpected as a result we were very much short on paying off the reception because just for the cocktail + reception alone the plate per person is 200$ (as per a normal wedding range with open bar is about) and Mike and I both have already paid for everything else including decor, photography, attire etc and didn’t expect we had to cover that huge amount for reception as well.
As I know you both live together and work, so I did not see any reason for that amount, when it comes to your wedding hopefully you’ll know what I mean.
I hope for the best as from what we receive is what we will give back. Anyways, good luck on everything.