Moving in with your boyfriend? It feels a step closer to marriage but he might just be postponing that proposal
By Daily Mail Reporter PUBLISHED: 8 July 2013
According to a new paper from RAND by sociologists Michael Pollard and Kathleen Mullan Harris,
young men who live with their partners have a significantly higher aversion to commitment, and lower levels of relationship intensity, than their female counterparts.
For females aged 18 to 26, 74.2per cent are ‘completely’ committed to their live-in partners, compared to just 59.4per cent of males in the same age group.
Different agendas: According to a new paper from RAND, young men who live with their partners have a significantly higher aversion to commitment and lower levels of relationship intensity than women
Similarly, 82.8per cent of cohabiting females say they are dating their partner exclusively, compared with 72.6per cent of men.
Moreover, a majority of females (81.8per cent) report that they love their live-in boyfriend ‘a lot’. By contrast, only 74per cent of cohabiting men love their girlfriends ‘a lot’.
Mr Pollard and Ms Harris also found that while more than 60per cent of women feel certain their cohabiting relationship will last the distance, just 47.8per cent of cohabiting men are ‘almost certain’ that their relationship is permanent.
Comparing the male and female responses also suggests that males are more likely to maintain separate residences deeper into the cohabiting relationship than females.
Are you really the one? For females aged 18 to 26, 74.2per cent are ‘completely’ committed to their live-in partners, compared to just 59.4per cent of males in the same age group
Thirteen percent of females reported separate residences in cohabitations of more than a year in duration versus 19per cent of males.
Not surprisingly, however, married women and men are much less likely to exhibit these low levels of commitment characteristic of many cohabiting relationships today.
According to the report, published last month, only 16.1per cent of women report joint bank accounts with their live-in partners, compared with 68.5per cent of women in marriages that were preceded by cohabitation, and 72.1per cent of women in marriages without prior cohabitation.
Similarly, 40.1per cent of cohabiting women report having purchased something over $500 with their partners, compared with more than 80per cent of women in both types of marriage.
Together forever? While more than 60per cent of women feel certain their cohabiting relationship will last the distance, just 47.8per cent of cohabiting men are ‘almost certain’ that their relationship is permanent
According to a New York Times op-ed last year, cohabitation in the U.S. has increased by more than 1,500per cent since 1960, when about 450,000 unmarried couples lived together.
Now the number is more than 7.5million.
‘Moving from dating to sleeping over to sleeping over a lot to cohabitation can be a gradual slope, one not marked by rings or ceremonies or sometimes even a conversation,’ wrote Meg Jay. ‘Couples bypass talking about why they want to live together and what it will mean.’
A nationwide survey conducted in 2001 by the National Marriage Project confirmed that men and women often have different cohabitation agendas: While most females view cohabitation as a step toward marriage, men more often than not see it as a way to postpone commitment.
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