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Iraqi farmer, 92, and father of 16 marries for a second time… to a woman 70 YEARS younger than him
You may now kiss the virgin bride for the FIRST TIME: The Evangelical Christians taking chastity before marriage to a new extreme
The Christian movement that tells husbands to spank their wives
In a new trend sweeping a subculture of Christian families, husbands are taking to corporal punishment to keep their wives in line.
The trend is called Christian Domestic Discipline and much of what is known about the practice is published on the website Learning Domestic Discipline, published by husband and wife CDD duo, Clint and Chelsea.
Clint and Chelsea didn’t come up with the trend, but they did write the book on it – a 50-page packet on the practice called Beginning Domestic Discipline.
German-born fashion guru Karl Lagerfeld dotes on his pampered 22-month-old Siamese cat named Choupette and admits she is like a “kept woman“. He said, “I never thought that I would fall in love like this with a cat” and told a TV interview that he’s disappointed “there’s no marriage yet between human beings and animals.”
The cat lives at Karl’s luxurious Paris mansion and has two personal maids to provide 24-hour service to the spoiled feline and document all her actions when the feline master is gone so he could read them when he gets home, reclines on pure white pillows, has an iPad, a twitter account with 27,000 followers, Facebook account with 1,276 “friends” , brushed twice a day, daily, and is given regular manicures. Favorite moments for Lagerfeld is when the feline fashionista gets on his papers while he’s working or when she brings all her toys to his bed. Choupette also starred in her own film for the luxury fashion website Net-a-Porter. One time when the cat was sick, he summoned a doctor in the middle of the night because he could bear to wait until morning.
Lagerfeld met Choupette a year ago when a friend left the cat to him for two weeks and refused to give her back when the owner returned. And since then, the Chanel designer’s cat has been haute living with her fashion guru master.
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- I never though that I’d fall in love like this… but I would marry my cat if I could, says Karl Lagerfeld: Fashion designer’s pet has an iPad, two maids and dines at his table (dailymail.co.uk)
- Karl Lagerfeld Would Marry His Cat Choupette If It Were Legal (vanityfair.com)
- Karl Lagerfeld: I want to marry my cat (telegraph.co.uk)
Back in the days of the hippies 60s, marriage became the target of the feminist movement. If today you see the left as the most concerned group advocating for gay marriage, back then they led the anti-marriage movement that resulted to America‘s culture of divorce and cohabitation. The following are anti-marriage quotes from the left during the anti-marriage movement of the 60s:
“Marriage as an institution was developed from rape as a practice” by Andrea Dworkin
“Since marriage constitutes slavery for women, it is clear that the women’s movement must concentrate on attacking this institution. Freedom for women cannot be won without abolition of marriage.” by Sheila Cronan
“The simple fact is, every woman must be willing to be recognized as a lesbian to be fully feminine” by Sheila Cronan
“The end of the institution of marriage is necessary for the liberation of women. Therefore it is necessary for us to encourage women to leave their husbands and not live individually with men. All of history must be rewritten in terms of oppression of women. We must go back to ancient female religion like witchcraft” on Declaration of Feminism 1971
The anti-marriage movement of the 60s evolved into pro-gay marriage of the 21st century. It’s time for the feminists today to apologize on their war on marriage and to start extolling the virtue and necessity of the marriage institution.
John and Ann Betar of Connecticut got married 80 years ago on November 25, 1932 and today considered as the longest married couple in the US. The longest married couple in the world as of 2013 is from England. Karam and Kartari Chand got married on January 6, 1925 and ben married for 88 years now. But the longest marriage in history lasted 91 years.
Daniel Frederick and Susan Bakeman of New York got married on August 29, 1772 four years before the American Independence when America was still a British colony. In 1863, ninety one years later after their marriage, the first Republican party president Abraham Lincoln passed the Emancipation Proclamation, proclaiming freedom to all slaves.
Daniel and Susan Bakeman got married while America was fighting for the birth of a free nation and their marriage ended ninety one years later with America involved in another battle of its own- the Republican party of Licoln fighting the Democrat party to bring freedom and to end slavery. Their marriage witnessed almost a century of history of this country. They witnessed the birth of America as a nation and they left watching America being divided and devastated by the Civil War of 1863.
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Dakota said, “She has this weird vision of relationships because my parents have known each other since second grade and got married right out of college. I’ve always thought that’s how it’s supposed to be like, and if it’s not, then I don’t want to waste my time…I was like, “I’m not gonna marry this person, so what’s the point?” It’s not me being naive. I just know how it’s supposed to be like. And I think until I feel that , I don’t want to be bothered.”
They said when there’s no love inside a home, expect the children to try to find it outside. But when there’s love overflowing inside a home, children won’t seek or feel the need to find love outside by getting into early relationships. Dakota Fanning is unique because she demonstrates this confidence of being “whole”, a young woman not seeking or crying out for love of a man so she can be “happy” and fulfilled.
She knows exactly what she wants and she wants to experience the kind of true love her parents have. She won’t settle for trial-and-error-romances, a way of exposing a heart to many possible heartbreaks, leaving scars, crushed self-esteem and bitterness eventually making anyone who goes through many broken hearts becoming a skeptic of love instead of believer of true love. Dakota Fanning is like Victoria Seaton, the character of Judith McNaught‘s romantic novel ” Once and Always“, wherein the character declared she wants to love only once but will be for always.
Dakota would love wholeheartedly and because her parents have a good loving marriage, she doesn’t need to look very far for guidance on what love is supposed to be and on how to keep that love becoming better and deeper as time goes by. Dakota Fanning is very lucky because she got her own parents love story as an example of one true love, something many kids in America cannot say today due to divorce and many mashed up broken families.
In the meantime, 23-year-old Taylor Swift already had six high-profile relationships, averaging nine months per relationship and although she’s a rich, talented, gorgeous blonde, her many disastrous relationships won’t exempt her from experiencing the consequences of multiple broken hearts- scars in memory of every man who broke her heart, bitterness for all the failures, self-doubt and damaged self-esteem asking what’s wrong with her, becoming cynical and distrustful of men, and instead later on having fun with her relationship she would be tense and paranoid about its future, not able to relax for fear it’s going to fail again.
Dakota has many good things in her life but her parents are the best gift God has given her in this world. For parents, love each other because that’s the best gift you can give your children, more than any of the material things you can ever buy for them. If every kid in America is inspired by the love and the love stories of their parents, this country won’t be filled with broken kids growing up to become broken adults to become broken husband or broken wife and eventually as broken parents. We can’t fix the world by creating more broken people. But we can create a new generation of whole kids by making our love stories an inspiration for them to follow.
Copyright 2013 Ketchie V. Schauf
Little kids are very possessive, you hear them say, “That’s my mom/dad. Don’t touch him/her. She/He is mine!” We laugh when when we see this but to kids, the world is about mom&dad and everybody inside their house. They believe mom&dad belongs to him and he belongs to them.
That’s why divorce is the scariest and most traumatic event for any children because without their permission, beyond their control, his world is being shattered by the very people who gave him that world. Mom&Dad is confusing him now. Why not stay together? When he has a fight with his brother or sister, mom&dad tells him to say sorry and patch things up! Why divorce? Can’t they see it’s hurting ME? Or maybe, if only he was a good kid ALL THE TIME mom&dad won’t do this divorce. Kids blame themselves too on their parents divorce.
Aside from confusion is the anger. He is angry because that’s not what he wants. He wants mommy and daddy together. Then there’s the fear. Where is he going to live? Will he still see his daddy/mommy later?
And the most dreadful thought, “What if mommy or daddy will marry someone later?” Deep inside even after a divorce, the kids still hope mom and dad may get back and get married again. But once there’s a new person in the picture, they know the fantasy has to end and there’s no hope. Their parents remarrying is the most dreadful because now they really feel they lost their belongingness. Who do they belong to now? Especially when there’s the stepbrother/sister to deal with, and later his mom/dad’s new kid with their new spouse, to them they are now lost.
They don’t feel they belong to anybody anymore, they are the outsider now who has no claim to the new world forced around them. What used to be a perfect world, now it’s a shattered world with him on the outside, watching a broken dream he will never be able to fix. And the sad thing is, he feels like he does not belong anywhere anymore that’s why alone, by himself, he will live his world outside and away from the people whom he love but destroyed his belongingness and his world.
Copyright 2013 Ketchie V. Schauf
In the propaganda war of divorce, there is the villain and there is the victim. Nobody wants to play the villain of course and everybody wants to play the victim. That’s why for the first time, people around them will hear terrible stories about the other spouse, surprising people around them about these “terrible secrets”. Remember, the one who can play the victim card will be the one to get the sympathy card. There will be a lot of plotting involved, even going through counseling just to say they did their part.
But deep inside the person who wanted the divorce knows it’s over and what they really want is out and they won’t do anything to fix it because fixing it means staying married. They are actually horrified of the idea of getting their marriage fix because to them, the reason why they are not happy is their husband/wife and they will miss the chance of finding out the “real happiness” that awaits them out there if they stay married.
There is the part also of playing mean and difficult to the other spouse hoping the other will quit and file for divorce. This is when criticism is all time high to justify all the petty fights, hoping the other spouse will do the deed. This is what happened to someone I know. The ex-wife later admitted she treated him badly because she was hoping he will leave him and divorce her. People don’t want to say, “I divorced my wife/husband.”. They prefer to say, “My terrible wife/husband divorced me.” Remember, in the PR world of divorce, there’s the villain and the victim. And people aim to snatch the victim card trophy that’s why they will plot, maneuver, lie and insist it was their husband/wife’s fault and they were just forced to do it.
Copyright 2013 Ketchie V. Schauf
People by nature want to celebrate holidays as they should be celebrated -with happy faces as they share happy greetings with friends, families and the rest of the world. The pressure not to ruin the holiday for anybody is like a holiday etiquette every well-mannered human being has to observe.
The couple knew already, or maybe one of them, that when the festive season is over, the marriage funeral is going to be announced. I heard a story of a couple wherein the woman told the man they cannot break up yet because her family is coming over. If that woman felt that pressure, how much more married couples whose kids want to see Santa, open their Christmas gifts, families and relatives coming over, invitations for parties everywhere and maybe deep inside still hoping the dreaded marriage funeral on January won’t really happen. January divorce is a couple’s way of saying, “At least we didn’t play Scrooge and ruin your holiday!”.
Copyright 2013 Ketchie V. Schauf
Two reasons: money and trust issues. Men are good in math. They know that 50% of all marriages end up in divorce, with 80% of them filed by women. That is 4 out of 10 marriages are ended by the wife filing the divorce. There’s a 40% chance they gamble and may lose. Divorce is equivalent to death. Death in relationships and death in finances. They do the math and they think of child support, division of assets, lawyer fees, or alimony if she was a stay-home wife for a long time.
Financial instability play a big role too. They know marriage means babies and a house and in their number conscious mind, that equals money. There’s even a trend developing right now among male Americans in their 20s and 30s that instead of pursuing financial success, they want a more leisurely lifestyle, no career pressure, unmarried and with no kids. Quite disturbing but real.
Another source of fear, men hear a lot of marriage-stories-gone-bad from their own families, friends, relatives, co-workers and other people. The older they get, the more “horror stories” they hear which convinces them they are doing the smart thing staying single. They notice this and download this in their brain under the file of “Why-I-should-not-get-married”. Marriage has become Las Vegas to them but a gamble that may ruin them forever and not worth taking a chance.
Men wants love and marriage, but men are afraid and they no longer trust the system to be favorable to them. In the 1970s when the no-fault divorce became a law, it opened a new way of opting out of marriage easily instead of working on it and divorce has become more the chosen option instead of working on their marriage . And also, the culture of living together (majority don’t end up in marriage) gave men the benefits of marriage without signing the marriage deed. As I heard a man said about his nine-year girlfriend, “Why fix it when it’s not broken”, and that has become their attitude today.
But there’s hope to this. If a woman can convince her man that marriage to her won’t lead to another divorce statistic, if you can “gently” cure him of his “marital phobia” by curing him of his trust issues, that you are safe and can be trusted, then there’s hope. I know two men who avowed to lifetime bachelorhood, but when they met the right woman, they got married right away. It’s not that men don’t want marriage because they do. It’s just that men nowadays are scared of marriage and it’s up to the women to cure them of that. When a man says, “I don’t want to get married!”, what he’s actually saying, “I’m afraid of getting married.” I’m sure he loves you but he has to picture you as a safe bet, a trusted partner in the future, then he may take the plunge and marry you.
Copyright 2013 Ketchie V. Schauf