PUBLISHED: 17:07 EST, 3 July 2013
A new dating guide is challenging conventional wisdom by telling women it’s fine to have sex on the first date. Andrea Syrtash and Jeff Wilser, authors of the new dating guide It’s Okay To Sleep with Him on the First Date: And Every Other Rule of Dating, Debunked told theNew York Post that the current crop of dating guides are ‘of another era’. Continue reading
You have the power to make yourself happier. That’s what we learned from 13 scientific studies that discovered small changes we can all make to improve our outlook on life.
From writing down the good parts of your day to simply smiling, here are a few proactive steps you can take towards becoming a happier you. Continue reading
When a woman looks ‘thoughtfully sad or angry for no reason,’ she could be suffering from Bitchy Resting Face.
In a new skit produced by the YouTube channel, Broken People, Bitchy Resting Face is laid out as an incurable syndrome in a hilarious PSA parody that has touched a familiar female chord.
CNSNews.com) – President Barack Obama’s 2009 economic stimulus law financed a $431,363 grant in Rep. Nancy Pelosi’s San Francisco-based congressional district to study the “psychological distress” of homosexual fathers. The study took three years to publish its results and created no jobs. The study concluded that homosexual men likely reduce their chances of contracting HIV after becoming fathers because they have less time for sex.
The grant–entitled “Health and HIV Among Gay Fathers”–was awarded to San Francisco State University. At the time, Rep. Nancy Pelosi, who represented the area, was speaker of the House.
The $431,363 was to be used to “to identify psychological and behavioral factors that help prevent gay fathers from HIV risk, substance abuse, and psychological distress as they navigate the myriad life-changing situations faced as parents.”
“Pursuit of Happiness” life coach gurus Lynne Rosen,46, and John Littig , 48, were found dead on Monday in their apartment in Brooklyn, NY after an apparent double suicide. The couple hosted a monthly radio show ” The Pursuit of Happiness”. Both were life coach consultants and would offer advice to listeners on becoming their “true self”. It’s believed the bodies had been lying for a week until a supervisor of the apartment kicked in the door after noticing a foul smell. One neighbor described the couple as always “respectable” while describing Mr. Littig as “exceptionally nice” and Rosen a “cold fish.” Rosen was also a psychotherapist while Littig was a motivational speaker who has a music band and performed under the name Jadex. The long-term partner had been hosting the monthly show for six years.
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A study conducted by psychological scientists from Denmark and U.S. revealed that men who are physically strong have right-wing political views while men with weaker physical strength tend to be more on the liberal. They claim the psychology behind a man’s political views can be traced back to early ancestors wherein distribution of resources were made through shows of strength, unlike modern society wherein the government took the role of the redistribution of wealth.
Scientists Michael Bang Peterson of Aarhus University in Demark and Daniel Sznycer of University of California studied hundreds of men from three countries – Argentina, Denmark and U.S.. They collected data based on size of biceps, socio-economic status and their political views on redistribution of wealth. Also, they discovered that even among wealthy men those with upper physical strength less supportive of redistribution of wealth while wealthy men with lesser physical strength more supportive of redistribution of wealth. Professor Peterson said that “In all three countries, physically strong males pursue the self-interested position on redistribution.”
I say men with right-wing political views are he-man with can-do attitude, hardworking habit and belief in self-governing. They believe they are capable to live their lives without waiting for society to take care of their needs or to make their “dreams” come true for them. And they don’t understand why others can’t do the same thing.
Right-wing men is like a bull, full of positive energy. In the past, cow meat sold in stores were half male and half female meat. Then farmers started to take the male bull at around 12 months and cut off their testicles so the male does not become a bull and they call it a steer – like a female meat. But today they even add female hormones injected to the cow and chicken to make them grow faster, making the bull more female-like and less bullish, translation more liberal. No wonder more men today are becoming more Democrats. In World War II, our government even planned to give Hitler food with women’s hormones through his meat supply and vegetables. Right-wing men have psychology of warriors while left-wing men have psychology of nurturers.
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Japan is a country with no natural resources and yet it is the second richest country in the world. Japan rebuilt itself from the ashes of defeat of World War II in a very admirable manner – quietly, patiently, stoically, methodically, with the aim to move ahead, leave the past and rebuild a better future with quiet determination and dignity. But Japan has also shown the world a glimpse of the Japanese art of endurance during their times of disaster and tragedy. They call it Gaman, a Japanese word that means endurance – persevering with attitude of stoicism, acceptance, dignity ( no emotional meltdown ), resiliency, picking yourself up right away to rebuild and move on.
During hurricane Katrina, Haiti earthquake, 1992 Los Angeles earthquake and most recently the Boston marathon bombings, in the midst of tragedy it is embarrassing to hear news or see videos of people looting or rioting, taking advantage of the tragedy currently taking place. There is the fear of civil unrest or the entire mass population of a city or country to have an uncontrollable emotional meltdown exacerbating the already ongoing calamity and tragedy
The Japanese people have a very unique culture. In the 1995 Kobe earthquake, they stayed calm with no looting or rioting. Companies provided rescue operations to provide food, clothing and shelter. It is as if the nation goes through quick psychological transition of accepting the tragedy by dealing with the immediate practical needs. And by dealing with the immediate practical needs they believe they can rebuild faster and avoid wasting time leaving the tragedy and calamity sooner than expected. A year after the earthquake, Kobe was back to normal.
In 2011, the horrific Japan tsunami shocked the world. But the Japanese people showed Gaman again. Grocery stores and gas stations showed long lines of people waiting in line as food and fuel are being rationed after the tsunami. Yet you see nothing but order and cooperation from the people. No looting, no rioting, no whining, no complaining, no political rhetoric to and from the media about the differences between the rich and the poor or their behavior. The evacuation centers ( schools and stadiums ) housed 450,000 evacuees and yet everything was peaceful, neat and orderly. People even used newspapers to make origami boxes to put their shoes in, as it is their culture not to wear shoes inside the house.
But while not every culture has Gaman, what we can learn from the Japanese people is that there is a future after every disaster. In dealing with tragedy, first we have to accept what happened, deal with it and endure it. At the same time start get going with the recovery by taking care of the immediate practical needs at hand and also start your recovery by building your future right away. Japan did now wallow in self-pity and hatred after Nagasaki and Hiroshima, nor in Kobe earthquake or the 2011 tsunami. They accepted what happened as something that cannot be changed and they decided to moved on and rebuild right away.
Sometimes the American culture puts too much emphasis on emotional evaluation and processing of everything that happen to one’s life since birth. It’s like we want to understand every emotion we go through and we get stuck in life processing and churning it when sometimes what we need are less understanding of emotions but more of positive physical actions that could lead to a change of our current emotions.
To feel the pain is normal, to have an emotional meltdown is acceptable but to get stuck emotionally in the tragedy and to not allow yourself to transition from mourning into rebuilding yourself back again is a self-inflicted paralysis, a psychological obstacle that sometimes can be cured by going back into doing again the daily normal chores and interests of life and at the same time by planning your future again. If before the tragedy you love to dance, go and dance again. If you love to sing before, go and sing again. If you love to write, go and write again. Bring back the dance, the music and words in your life. Laugh and smile again. Dream and make it happen again.
Mourn but don’t die while still alive. Don’t live your life walking facing the past with your back towards the future, coddling and carrying all the tragedies in your life every step of the way. Everything you experienced you will always carry with you but the past is something you cannot undo. But the future is always like a white canvas, just waiting for another picture that’s going to be painted. And it is up to you how you paint the picture of your future – you can make it empty and lifeless, dark and full of anger or bright and colorful that will inspire and bring smile to other people. Life is how you paint it – even after a tragedy.
Copyright 2013 Ketchie V. Schauf
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